When identities are too closely tied to one’s opinions, and those opinions are then disagreed with, many feel like they, themselves, have been rejected, the core of who they are have been shoved away, pushed to a corner and crushed. To overcome hypersensitivity, realize that your opinions are not you. So often we jump to conclusions, assume an ill intent, create meaning to a word that then hurts and offends.
And certainly, any given opinion or set of opinions are not the whole of who you are. Resist that urge and delay judgment until the conversation has run its course. So just let it be, shrug and let it slide off your back.
I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.
He would then seek out the offended person and apologize for the misconstrued word or deed. If the truth, whoever possesses it, is more valued than the perception that you are the one who knew it first, then opposition to your thoughts and beliefs will be inoffensive no matter how offensive the other person is trying to be. You simply want to know the truth, even if you are never the place it originates. The It’s-All-About-Me mentality is fertile soil for being frequently offended. Instead, draw conclusions based on the peak occurring at 32 rather than 22 or 26 (which are more typical assumptions).More importantly, consider that although physical attractiveness peaks at one point (C), internal attractiveness plateaus later (D). post-30) peak in overall attractiveness is likely to draw some criticism, I doubt that such criticism is honest, or considers a woman's internal attractiveness.
” Reason with yourself: “Did he really mean it the way I was just about to take it? ” You will be happier as you learn to talk yourself out of offense and internalize the sticks-and-stones-may-break-my-bones-but-words-will-never-hurt-me philosophy of communication.