Hey, these women are veterans- many are married (or divorced) with children and mortgages, and know better than to rely on rules that ultimately inhibit them from doing what they want.
One friend commented, “If I wait three months for sex and its wack, I’m going to be pissed. ” For a woman who has limited time to date and frolic, trying to uphold rules surrounding desire can be viewed as repressive, and plain nonsensical.
As a divorcee well into her thirties with plenty of “dating the wrong guy” experience, and as someone who studies and discusses women, desire and relationships often, I won’t count out a woman’s need to investigate her own feelings about sharing sex and the expectations that follow- AND how those expectations will affect her feelings of self worth and esteem.
A woman who understands that she becomes extremely emotionally attached to her partner post-coitus may need significant time to determine who her potential partner is and where the relationship may go after sex.
fix-it Harvey says four little words can strike fear and dread into any man: We need to talk.
"You just drove a nail in his forehead," Harvey says.
You've got guys that are fishing to keep the fish, and you've got guys that are fishing to catch them, unhook them and throw them back," Harvey says.This is what it takes to get to me.'" When should you sleep with your new boyfriend?As an auto plant worker, Harvey says he had to wait 90 days to receive benefits -- and says the same probation period should apply to dating. They determined if I was easy to work with, if I got along well with others, if I showed up when I said I was going to show up, if I was worthy." Women, Harvey says, hold the greatest benefit of all -- the cookie -- so there's no reason to give it away until you know your man deserves it. "Look, you cannot run us off." So what if you don't want to wait 90 days? We created the term 'gold digger' so you won't ask us for nothing.Also, check out Jason Hairston as he offers a rebuttal to Harvey’s assertion.Steve Harvey is a media conglomerate personified in a man whose career began doing stand-up comedy in the mid-1980s.
"You've got to determine along the way which one of the fish you're going to be." Without ironclad standards, Harvey says you'll always end up back in the dating pool.