Although sometimes it makes even more sense not to date for a while so you can consider what it is you’re looking for in potential relationships, and what you have to offer.
You might find these commonly asked relationships questions (via my friends at the Kinsey Institute) are useful as you reflect on your situation. Is there a pattern that might be attributed to the type of person you’re dating (meaning they’re not right for you) or one where you are being triggered by something to end things?
If I were like, Hey, I just wanna bone, very few people would want to meet up with you …“Do you think this culture is misogynistic?
” he asks lightly.‘I call it the Dating Apocalypse,” says a woman in New York, aged 29.
If I were ever in a court of law I could point to the transcript.” But something about the whole scenario seems to bother him, despite all his mild-mannered bravado.
“I think to an extent it is, like, sinister,” he says, “ ‘cause I know that the average girl will think that there’s a chance that she can turn the tables.
It’s a balmy night in Manhattan’s financial district, and at a sports bar called Stout, everyone is Tindering.
Or selecting people on the basis of a particular ‘type’ (e.g.
It’s setting up two or three Tinder dates a week and, chances are, sleeping with all of them, so you could rack up 100 girls you’ve slept with in a year.”He says that he himself has slept with five different women he met on Tinder—“Tinderellas,” the guys call them—in the last eight days. ”“We don’t know what the girls are like,” Marty says.“And they don’t know us,” says Alex.
Dan and Marty, also Alex’s roommates in a shiny high-rise apartment building near Wall Street, can vouch for that. “She works at—” He says the name of a high-end art auction house. And yet a lack of an intimate knowledge of his potential sex partners never presents him with an obstacle to physical intimacy, Alex says.
Thinking about how your relationships ended may also be worthwhile. You may find exploring how you feel with a counsellor helps identify what is blocking you having the relationships you want.
You can ask your GP to refer you if this is causing you distress (although remember there can often be a long waiting list). Or you might find your work or college has a resident counselling service offering short-term help that you might use.