I have friends who aren’t conventionally attractive, aren’t especially rich and are certainly not powerful… Men have to be the aggressors, men are the ones who have to make the approach, call first, ask her out, pay for the date… Women are clearly either lazy, entitled or just get off on having men subjugate themselves.Let’s be honest: more often than not the men who complain most about this are the men who would prefer to be approaching women themselves, whether due to approach anxiety, a fear of rejection or even just not being sure whether or not she’s interested.
Meanwhile he sees Studly Good Night go up, slap her on the ass, tell her obscene jokes and takes her home that night to fuck her until her eyes bleed.
The problem is that this falls under what’s known as the confirmation bias: the tendency to only believe evidence that validates an already existing belief. Before you start, let me forestall the inevitable “Great, so you don’t have to be hot, you just have to be powerful/rich/more talented than God”. They have passion in their life and know how to convey it. They can make women laugh, feel special without putting them on a pedestal and yet not come across as needy. Women are closer to true social equality than ever before: wages are growing closer to parity, women outnumber men in college attendance and are achieving leadership positions in corporations and government in ways that previous generations could only dream of.
There is far more to attraction than looks – though they help – or being in the rarified 1% of money, talent or fame. And yet men have to do all the work when it comes to courtship.
It stands to reason that since women have all of the power when it comes to dating, they get to pick and choose from men who get laid are alpha males with lantern jaws and six-pack abs.
Everybody else – the beta males, the socially awkward, the chubby, husky dudes, the symetrically challenged – they’re left holding the bag of dudes who aren’t exactly making the cover of People’s Sexiest Man shopping with their girlfriends and wives. ” I hear some of you cry, at which point we’re right back to the same issue as before: “the impossibly hot woman I want to date/sleep with won’t date .” So straight talk: societally accepted standards of beauty kind of suck.