” “Do you always pick-up guys at (insert where you met her)? It’s your internet husband (insert your name).” (This is if you’ve met her online) “I know you haven’t been able to stop thinking about me since we met so I figured I’d say hi.” Those are the exact texts I use and they work great! Now that you’ve established contact with a woman and you’re texting back and forth, it’s a good time to flirt and banter with her before you ask her out on a date. If you can successfully flirt, banter, and make a woman laugh, you’re in! ” Flirt a little and maintain that connection, but know when to pull the trigger on asking her out. Always ask a woman out for drinks, coffee, or ice cream within the first 15-20 texts back and forth.
(By the way, NEVER refer to meeting up with a girl as a date. Not only that, you’ve definitely distinguished yourself from all of the other men who are texting or have texted with her. You may find this hard to believe, but I’ve given workshops on flirting and bantering with as many as 10 guys at once and it’s amazing at how little men know about flirting, how to do it, and why it’s so important. ” Her: “I have to take a shower” You: “Look at you trying to get me to imagine you with no clothes on. You don’t want to waste time with a woman who isn’t serious about meeting up.
After all, a woman has some pretty subtle ways of showing you she likes you…
since she doesn’t want to be seen as “easy” or a “slut” by other people who might be around…
But it can be really tough to figure out whether she’s interested in you…or if she just wants attention, or is being polite.
Because they’re texting so few girls over the course of an entire year, most men put an extreme amount of importance on each woman–he has no sense of abundance. You know that even if you screw things up with one woman, there are 9 others left that still like you!
If you only have 7 chances to get a girl out on a date, you’re probably going to play it very carefully, right? If you’re texting with 10 women at any given moment, how do you think you’ll act with each woman? This is why it’s crucial to your success to text with “any woman” like you have 10 more women who are dying to go out with you.
I have a saying: “When you’re with a woman, time is on your side.
When you’re separated from her, time is your worst enemy.” Memorize this and it will serve you well. If you’re chatting away with a woman and things are going well, then that time you’re spending with her is only raising her level of attraction to you and strengthening your connection with her.
That means if you can do it right, you’ll be getting more dates than you can handle. Not only that, you don’t want the conversation to get so boring that she decides you’re not the right guy for her.