For me, this changed the face of HIV, and I hope this does the same for you.Approximately one in eight gay men in London are living with HIV.After he kisses you, he asks you if you’d like to stay the night with him. When he puts his arm around you and you walk toward his place in Hackney, something leaves his lips that shocks you deeply and instills in you a sense of fear: “I’m HIV positive.”I can still remember the sound of the words rolling off his tongue.He spoke so confidently, like he had done it before. I had immediately decided I would spend the night — strictly cuddles only — then cut my losses and hope someone just as great came along.
I spent the first three months of our relationship slamming on the breaks and dodging the reality I would eventually have to fully commit or cut him loose.But, unfortunately, including his name in this article would subject him to the unwarranted stigma surrounding HIV.So, until that stigma is lifted, his status is no one's business.In fact, I was probably making him feel a lot worse. I’ve realized I easily could have thrown away one of the best things in my life because of a socially-constructed, outdated stigma.I’m writing this article anonymously to hide his identity, not my own. It adds something to our relationship I can’t describe.
I’m currently dating this woman who has HIV and hepatitis B. This is a very safe way to protect you from catching HIV.