Though there were sometimes nervous jitters as family members (and especially the young men) anticipated these sessions, in each case the time together was strategic, encouraging and rewarding.Having consistently practiced this when they were dating, it was impossible for us and for our daughters to imagine them dating a young man without first openly addressing with him all the principles that follow.Until we had gone over these principles together (my wife and I, our daughter and the boy) and made sure there was complete agreement, we didn’t allow a dating relationship to begin.We found that this was a great help not only to our daughters but also to the young men who wanted to date them.(Each time we did this, of course, it further reinforced these principles for our daughters and for us.) “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). Sex was created by the holy God of heaven, where purity reigns.God made sex physically desirable by creating us with sex drives, without which sex wouldn’t exist and neither would people.
By upholding each other’s dignity they were called on to greater purity and love, Sarah said.
“Being able to give yourself fully to another is a beautiful thing that you kind of pass up a little bit when you’re practicing contraception.
The richness of a relationship where you’re entrusting your heart and your bodies fully to each other is like no other.” Fourth of a series The meaning of human sexuality In partnership with the publications of all Minnesota dioceses, The Catholic Spirit is launching an 11-part series on families based on the meeting’s 10 themes.
Sexual purity in dating helped Dan and Sarah Driver, pictured here on their wedding day in June 2014, to make God the center of their married life and be open to children, they said.
Courtesy Dan Driver Dan and Sarah Driver come from polar opposite backgrounds: She grew up in a strong Catholic family in Grand Rapids, Michigan, and never left the faith, while he received less Catholic formation in Reading, England, and then adopted a hedonistic lifestyle until his conversion. “Mine was ‘I still love Jesus and now I love him more.’” When the couple started dating in 2013, they didn’t meet in the middle but in the Church, each bringing insights from their past to their understanding of Catholic teaching on marriage.
Now, their life as a couple and parents is the most convincing witness for living the Church’s teaching, he said.