If they just get angry and defensive, that’s cause for concern. If you confront her without evidence she won’t be silly telling the truth , IF,is a guy in her life which she has some certain feelings for him. Everyone trusting in their guts,but if you cannot prove nothing,even if is true,you cannot win in front of her.
The bottom line is that if you approach them from a place of open honesty, you’ll be able to determine a lot based on their reaction. She will keep you in stand-by until she will realize which feelings are more stronger. How they’re sayin: is not what you sayin is what you can prove.
But I am saying that if it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck: It’s probably a duck. Once you realize that the way you feel about a situation is enough of a reason to change it, you start to take more rapid & honest action! I love the point of speaking up and being honest about it.
If you’ve checked the phone and there’s nothing there, this is still your issue. I remember last year when my girlfriend told me her ex-boyfriend got hired at her workplace, I initially felt a bit uneasy and I was worried I may be jealous later, so I told her upfront that I was ok with it (not that it needed my approval or anything) but I’ve had jealousy issues in the past and wanted to just be upfront with her about my history so we could have open communication about it.
You know something’s off, but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Well this same theme plays out in many different ways in relationships.
Let’s say your partner claims that nothing is going on: If you’ve had an open and honest conversation about your concerns, now they can be sensitive to your needs and be more transparent. She won’t leave a branch till she’ll not grab another one.So for all of you considering checking your partner’s phone that haven’t yet pulled the trigger: Don’t do it.Stop trying to control the situation and start taking responsibility for what you can control: YOU.Without proving,you will live in one endless dilemma. You know, Victoria,just tell us,for the man: How’s for a woman which has a relationship with two man?A woman when she in a balance of choosing, ALWAYS,she’s taking advices from her best friend. How she can embracing,kissing,making love and sleeping next to her man,when in the meanwhile she has someone else in her life? Why she doesn’t,just stop the relation with her man and going to her second prince charming.