But, great marriages aren’t built on a white dress and the exchange of rings and vows, and the hope for “one day”.
There are things we can do to turn hope into reality, and waiting until marriage to engage in sex is one of them.
have led us to believe that finding "The One" is the primary goal of a woman's life.
Find that magical, elusive guy and you'll unlock a lifetime of love, affection and happiness, right? But just how long does it take to find your one and only?
Giving into sex that night might have solved my immediate desire for companionship, but it wouldn’t have solved my long-term, stronger desire for a happy, lasting marriage and a healthy sex life in marriage.
Studies show that sex too early in a relationship or multiple sexual partners before marriage can have lasting effects on a happy, healthy relationship and sex life in marriage.
According to the study: “In no instance was increasing the number of sexual partners better for any of the relationship outcomes…” In other words, fewer sexual partners before marriage provides better chances of a happier marriage and a happier sex life in marriage.
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One study, from researchers at Cornell University and the University of Wisconsin-Madison, found that women who delayed “sexual involvement for over 6 months reported significantly higher levels of relationship satisfaction, commitment, intimacy, and emotional support, as well as sexual satisfaction with their partner” compared to their peers who got sexually involved within the first month of a relationship.
Researchers suggested that the “results provide empirical evidence[…] that the speed of entry into sexual relationships is negatively associated with marital quality, but only among women.” In other words, the longer a couple waits to engage in sex, the more likely they are to be happier in marriage—particularly for women.
Another study, from researchers at Brigham Young University, found that the number of sexual partners before marriage was associated with lower levels of sexual quality, communication, and relationship stability in marriage.
For those study participants in my age group, 18-30, higher numbers of sexual partners was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.
What if you were dating around and had no idea what you wanted?