We were only ‘still married’ because he was refusing the divorce!
I was in my late 30’s and unprepared to spend the rest of my life waiting for him to let go as I watched the good men snapped up by other, younger, women….” As you’ve found, Dan, some of the not-quite-divorced lie to get a little contact.
Consciously or not, these people are using you as a jealousy-inducer—a way to renew their marriage bonds and reinvigorate their spouse’s affections by showcasing how desirable they are to others: “….
We dated for a couple months before she told me she was married but didn’t wear a ring because she felt divorce was imminent.
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Dan Dear Duana, I’m a single mom, and I’ve been set up with another single parent who is ‘not quite divorced’. Should I suggest he contact me when the divorce is final? He got an apartment, and still came ‘home’ after work for months to help put our two young children to bed as neither of us emotionally was ready to tell the kids.
Should I have one coffee date and see what I think? Eventually, we told them, and about 2 years later our divorce was final…..[He also] knew that it would take me time to re-enter the workforce after having been a stay at home mom to our children, and that after we were divorced I would have no health insurance…
We dated for a couple months before she told me she was married but didn’t wear a ring because she felt divorce was imminent. From a woman: I [married young and am now separated at age 27]. I mean, I don’t think I need to tell a man when he just asks for my number that I am in the process of being divorced. At first I wasn’t too interested in him but I went on a date anyways and simply told him that I was divorced. I knew that when I said “I’m divorced” he thought that it was official…
We only lasted a couple more months before the stress of seeing each other while she was still married overwhelmed us….. I just didn’t want to get into the whole “I’m in the process” conversation.
What happened was nearly 20 more years of some level of commitment from the woman’s husband. Start by realizing that just because dating can make a lot of sense to those who are divorcing, doesn’t mean it makes sense for you to date them.