He wants to end things with me but I want be selfish and ask him if we can stay together even if it means that we only spend time together on weekends, and avoid going out in public, and never interact on campus. — Dangerous Liaisons Lucy To see Dear Sugar's answer, .
Dear Dangerous Liasons Lucy, Although student relationships with college professors are not uncommon, it's your unconcerned nature that worries me most.
Even taking a short walk out in the hall can do wonders for both of you.” If you react to everything that goes on in a classroom, you’ll lose too much valuable teaching time.
If the primary problem is one child’s behavior, you can talk to him or her in private, but as long as the student isn’t disrupting the class, it’s not worth stopping instruction to address a situation.
But disruptive and confrontational students are sometimes an unavoidable challenge.
If handled poorly, these confrontations can lead to power struggles -- and more disruptions.
In such a serious situation, the most important thing is to avoid looking at the situation from an emotional point of view and focus on considering things as rationally as possible.
This isn’t the reaction educators are looking for in the middle of class.
Regardless of how you both feel about one another, from the school's standpoint, one of their employees is taking advantage of his position of power and violating the rules, which can lead to suspension, losing his position, and making it difficult for him to get work at other schools.
If teachers can start to understand students’ cultures better, a partnership can be formed between school and the home with the parents.
“Taking the time to learn about a child’s background can make the difference between compassion and callousness,” says retired teacher Diane Postman of Yorktown, Virginia.
“Maintain control of your own actions and somehow find a way to give the disruptive student an ‘out’ so that he or she can back down without losing too much face,” says Barela.
“Another option, if possible, is to remove the student from the learning environment so that the two of you can deal with the issue privately.
Frank Iannucci, a math and computer science teacher from West Orange, New Jersey, says teachers should immediately stop the confrontation and arrange to discuss it with the student in a mature, adult manner, regardless of the age of the student, after the period. “Respectfully remind them of why there are there, and continue with the lesson.