And banter specifically excludes all the things that make us uncomfortable: emotion, soppiness, earnestness and clarity.Banter allows courting couples to communicate their feelings without ever saying what they really mean, which would be embarrassing.'Banter', we call it, and it's our main method of flirting.The key ingredients are all very English: humour, particularly irony; wordplay; argument; cynicism; mock-aggression; teasing; indirectness — all our favourite things.And this is the point: there was nothing extraordinary or remarkable about his apparently humble self-mockery. Often, these are non-verbal, or so understated as to be almost undetectable.
Fortunately, our sexually incompetent reputation isn't borne out by the facts, which suggest that we manage to copulate and reproduce just like the rest of the world.In which case, chat-up lines such as 'Er, fancy a s***? English males are particularly squeamish about the idea of dating.Going on a 'date' is just a bit too explicit, too official and unambiguous — the sort of embarrassing cards-on-the-table declaration of intent that the naturally cautious, indirect Englishman prefers to avoid.He's not required to exhibit any emotions; he avoids entangling himself too soon in anything that could possibly be described as a relationship; he doesn't have to do or say anything 'soppy', so he maintains his masculine dignity; and he avoids the humiliation of a verbal rejection.(It's all about the post-mortem with his mates the next day.
Today, she decodes our unique behaviour in the bedroom.