Girls, you’d never let your friend get behind the wheel when drunk, so don’t let a loser get behind her in the bedroom.Often, girls are stuck with a loser due to personal history.Before I begin I want to clarify that English isn’t my first language. About me: I am from India , I grew up in the capital and am from what you would call as “lower middle class” , (I added “middle” as saving grace.) I love fixing things, I love helping people out, it gives me a sense of importance. Logic and rational thinking have always been my strength. I had a hard childhood, I grew up in a broken home, father was never around, but my mother helped me a lot. I also used to stutter as a child; hence I was an introverted teenager. After knowing each other for months, Ri decided she would come to New Delhi for higher studies; meanwhile I had left my job to be in a business school close by her and take up an MBA degree.
I don’t want to give her name here, so we will call her, “Ri”. We chatted for a few months and then exchanged numbers. India is a mind bogglingly diverse country, language, accent and dialect change every 10 miles or so. I am from a north Indian warrior clan, she was born in an east Indian trader community. Me, who had barely ever felt love from the outside world. I wrote them off as Ri being a bit on the sensitive side. She would say the cruelest things to me and yet pretend as if nothing happened and call me again tomorrow. After every few weeks she would tell me, “last night I cut myself”. My self-respect hit rock bottom and I didn’t have the wisdom left to ask myself why? As the honeymoon period passed, I noticed a few unusual outbursts. She would talk about him in such vile manner; I used to think of him as a horrible man. Ri was never physically violent toward me, but what she lacked in physical aggression she made up for in passive aggression, emotional manipulation, no win games and shit tests. No matter how much I told her I loved her, she never stopped it. Ri would break up with me every week and then taks me back. Either way, it’s time to show him and his greasy ponytail the exit.1. He is over the age of 25 and trying to get his “band” going.10. He looks like or dresses like a “Jersey Shore” cast member.15. He has he been to Jersey Shore.[insert Jersey Shore image]17. He barks and growls when he sees his own reflection.23.He cut his drug habit back to just pot, meth and occasionally, sniffing paint.[insert pot smoker image]2. He says he’s “too smart” to get caught by the cops.11. He is the kind of guy who won’t watch “Hot and Horny Housewives 3” because he was concerned he wouldn’t be able to follow the plot because he hadn’t seen 1 or 2 yet.18. He promised you a fresh start once he gets parole.24. He wrote “He’s An Asshole Anyway” (just kidding, those guys are awesome). If you indeed are dating a loser, you need to rapidly reassess your relationship status.
You should invest your time and love in someone who is worthwhile and makes you happy.