So yes, sometimes only dating friends is wise, but it the rule isn’t for everyone.Have you had a relationship that has not come from a friendship and worked really well, or really badly? If, for instance, you choose to “meet up” with someone but don’t actually end up matching with them, it isn’t difficult to work out what option they chose.She was a few minutes late, and the server who filled two glasses with water seemed to know I was on a date. For days, I enjoyed my new apartment, all on my own. By that evening, I felt desperate to get out and be social. I continued to bounce from place to place into adulthood. My new roommate, a stranger I’d met on Craigslist, got sick as soon as I arrived and went to her mom’s house in the south suburbs. One morning I woke up and wished I had someone to talk to. That’s what I’m committed to doing this new year — opening myself up to the possibility of new friends. My family moved cross-country to California and I had to attend a school full of strangers in a place where it was bizarrely warm year-round. And each time, rather than improving at making new friends in new schools, I became better at being alone.
Getting to know someone as a friend and seeing if they’re trustworthy, and deciding whether the attraction is strong or just a bit fleeting before you rush in, is very helpful.
I remember thinking at the time, but what if you don’t fancy your friends? Then you just shut yourself off to the rest of the world and hope a new ‘friend’ will eventually come along. In my experience that is very hard and confusing for everyone involved.
Or what if you meet someone you don’t know and are instantly attracted to them, are you meant to be ‘fake’ friends first? But before I shoot down that church leader too much, I have seen the other side of the coin too.
The feature was spotted by Motherboard’s Jacob Dubé, who said it was also available to some of his friends in Canada, but none of his colleagues.
It isn’t clear what the feature is actually called – or, indeed, if it was designed specifically with dating in mind – but Facebook has confirmed that it’s being tested on i OS and Android in Toronto and New Zealand.