Will my weekends then revolve around their schedule and activities? For the most part, they are with their father on weekends but this is not always the case. So, I definitely do see the many positives and there potentially will be a lot more love in my life.* What happens if I want kids of my own several years from now?Assuming my girlfriend and I are still together then, it may be too late for her or she may be past that stage where doesn’t want another one. —-Getting serious with a woman who has young kids means that it is a package deal.A few months ago I went on a coffee date with a very wonderful woman and ever since then we have been seeing each other.In that post and in a follow-up one, I talked about my issue with her love of an occasional glass of wine and how it was really a “me problem”.Just because she doesn't have (or want) kids doesn't mean she isn't busy.Women without children keep schedules packed with jobs they love, booked social calendars, and a million other commitments.
The plan is simple: (1) Be a cool, reasonable human. My nieces and nephew are the most important people to me in the world outside of my husband and this pizza. She won't rule out dating you because you have kids.(2) Figure out your own shit out so you don't harsh everyone's good time. Sometimes a woman just doesn't want to experience giving birth and being the primary (or sole) caretaker for a bebe.That doesn't mean she wouldn't love to play second fiddle to the little ones in your life.Whatever happens, things will work out and fall into place. I’m a 38-year old, single male, never been married and have had a handful of serious long-term relationships (2 years being the longest), a lot of short term-dating and over 100 dates that didn’t go beyond a first date.
I thought that even though I may not want kids of my own, it might be very rewarding to get to spend time with the kids of the woman that I am dating.* I haven’t met the kids yet and there is no timetable as to when I will. After I meditate, I am used to watching Mike and Mike in the morning on ESPN2 as I get ready for work. (For those who don’t know, I am a major sports junkie and this is one of my small pleasures.)– What will it be like to have an “instant-family”? I know that I am not their father (I will be their friend) and have no financial responsibility for them but the thought of having two small children in my life right away is a little overwhelming.– Even though I do have concerns, having two kids in my life could be incredibly enriching.