As I got older, I dreamed I had perfect skin, finer hair, bettergrades. I was trying to look more feminine through mydress.What sort of things did you avoid, because of the hair? It’s one thing to shave the hair, but it’s another thing to deal with those unsightly ingrown hairs and blemishes from shaving. I was self-conscious in class, but since I was older I didn’t care what the cheerleaders were thinking or saying about me, so I managed to make some friends.I met my first steady boyfriend during eleventh grade.
In addition to cost concerns, taboos about feminine hair growth, or just sheer embarrassment, can prevent women from seeking treatment (let alone spreading their legs at a waxing salon or presenting their beard to a professional for laser hairremoval).I wrote a lot — I was imaginative and I daydreamed. I had a handful of good friends, but I certainly wouldn’t describe myself as popular. I wanted people to think I was pretty and flashy to distract them from my five-o’-clockshadow. One teacher told me that I looked too “grown.” I don’t think I looked slutty, but there was a time when I got sent home for having a skirt a little too short.When I was into Zelda, I was a female African-American Link who killed monsters and didn’t like the princess. I wore boots and leggings and things that showed off my figure.I did my master’s online because the school I wanted to attend was out of state. It’s a harsh reminder that I have one of the most embarrassing imperfections for awoman. I’d pretend it didn’t bother me and I didn’t talk about it. I had to look at customers in the face and they could see everything.If anyone said something to me I’d laugh it off like it didn’t bother me. Did you identify with men when you were growing up, as if you had something in common with them?
I was told I sing tenor in middle-school I felt quite embarrassed singing with the boys then, but now I actually welcome my deep sultry voice.