Don’t let your sexual activity exceed your level of commitment.You are not committed to anyone until you have talked about whether it is mutual.The general rules for “re-entry dating” are like the general rules in life. Plan B is what got you through when alcohol was not an option!They are the unwritten codes of conduct that most of us understand but don’t always follow. So before you talk yourself out of it, here are a few general rules for that uncomfortable first post-divorce date. When it comes to dating, always have something to do later.Avoid talking about your troubles on a first date, period!
If that means having sex, then a meaningful relationship isn’t in your plans.
If you just raked your ex over the coals, don’t brag about it.
That kind of stuff in no way will impress a potential date. Chances are, either they themselves were, or someone they know was, treated unfairly in a divorce, and you become an easy target.
Just know this: what you thought worked in your 20s may not work for you now. When a relationship is new, everyone is on his or her best behavior and intentions of being a good partner are 110%.
Moreover, when the sex is good, a new couple can’t get enough of each other.
Suddenly the Emperor has no clothes — and tag, you’re it… A good rule of thumb is this: if you’ve never heard the music playing, then you are probably in the wrong bar.