I understand that is because he misses the kids too.
I have been dating a man with one child for 10mths. I have also bonded with his child, whom we see every other week.
It’s very common for guys with kids to write in their OKCupid profiles: “My kids come first,” or “My daughter is the center of my world! You want a potential mate to know that your life includes the giant presence of a kid or four. Plus, if you’ve gone through divorce or another crisis that landed you as a single parent, you are no doubt concerned about giving your kids extra care and sense of security. But it is even trickier if one or both of the parents put the kids before their partner.
You also want women to know you’re a devoted dad (it’s no secret chicks get hot for guys who are great with kids! It’s no surprise that so many blended families I know struggle with adjusting all parties to a home where everyone is suddenly expected to revolve around the new relationship. One dad I went out with nearly boasted when telling me about a four-month relationship that went sour because his girlfriend did not understand why he’d abruptly leave in the middle of dinner because his tween son would call, upset about some matter with his hockey coach.
Occasionally, boyfriend will discount me in front of the child and deem me as critical.
We have the kids 50/50 and he is a very active dad and goes to all school events etc when we don't have them too and I become really selfish with our own time together, its almost like I need that time to reconnect with him because the times with the kids is so busy.Furthermore, he is suffering from guilt to the point where the child has the most say in all situations -there is very little structure or discipline.I never involve myself in this, as I see it as his place -- however, if the child is rude or overbearring with me, I say what I think is appropriate to the child.I have dated men with children before and have never had too much drama building a relationship and being a positive influence on the kids lives.I see myself as an extension of their parents and just another person that cares about them.