Courtship crashed back onto the cultural landscape in a big way several years ago when Joshua Harris wrote the book These are good parameters. The heart of courtship is the notion that you won’t just date for fun but will pursue romance with marriage as an end goal. First Corinthians tells us to flee from sexual immorality. Limiting time alone is a great way to run from the temptation to get overly physical.I’ve been around a lot of girls who court and a lot of families who want their children to court. Clearly, the basic principles of courtship are so important to living a lifestyle of purity.As Christians, our primary purpose in life is to seek and serve God, and fulfill our destiny in Him. We need to find out what God's plan for relationships is, and then follow it. Let's study what we are doing now against what God has described in His word, and draw up a new standard. Other terms, such as 'betrothal' or even 'biblical dating' could be used, although they would possibly be confusing.The current model that we are using is ineffective, at best. Dating was invented in the early part of this century.Sometimes the parents found partners for the children, and then the children were consulted for their opinion.Other times the son would approach the daughter's father and make arrangements with him. Instead of enjoying their teen years as they build skills and character, they are getting distracted into the quagmire of relationships that they are not equipped to conduct.
I have adopted the view that the Bible holds the truth for life today.In overview, courting should only happen once and ends in a life-long covenant relationship.Dating happens lots of times, and ends in many hurts, heartbreaks, scars, and if you're lucky, a partner that just is a word that has been adopted to describe a biblical model for the relationship leading up to marriage.Prior to that time, marriage always involved much more input from the parents, and "trial relationships" leading up to marriage were not conducted at all.Courtship, as discussed in more detail subsequently, seeks to emulate the Godly models described in the Bible that were conducted by God's people up until the invention of dating.
Things such as co-habitation, kissing, intimate hugging, sex and bringing up children.