They want to know they're making the right decision.
They want to go into marriage with realistic expectations.
"Couples are a lot more willing to stop and deal with a problem prior to engagement because they haven't made that public commitment to friends and family."That's one reason Tabitha and David sought counseling when they did.
"We couldn't figure out why we fought so much and still wanted to be together," Tabitha says.
Just because they're therapists does not mean they can just meet you and know," Tabitha explains.
And regardless of personal history, each individual has to be able to recognize his or her own issues and be mature enough to take responsibility for them.
Few things are more profitable than men and women committed to the study of God’s Word as it relates to marriage, particularly in today’s society. In other words, do they know how the other came to faith and can they tell the story? As you might guess, this approach can open up some wonderful and meaningful discussion.
But until the engagement is official, marriage education is traditionally limited to observation (which may or may not come from good examples) and random bits of advice from people (who may or may not know what they're talking about).
More and more, however, couples are deciding they want to be sure before that sparkly ring is on the all-important finger.
So, many couples are asking professional counselors to help them sort things out pre-engagement.
Call it unromantic if you want, but experts are calling it smart.
And they get training for how to work through arguments.