'The reason I feel like it's important to talk about this stuff is that the more normal and, frankly, mundane and boring this stuff becomes, I think the better it's going to be for everyone who is part of our community,' the 31-year-old says.Monogamous: Anna Paquin says despite leering comments about her bisexuality, she and husband Stephen Moyers have a 'mundane' and strong relationship.I got a notification each time one of those people also liked me, but I couldn’t scroll through the users who hadn’t responded and wonder where I went wrong (like I tend to with unanswered Ok Cupid messages).In the five days I used Her, I talked to 11 users, interacted with a global and local community, and (drum roll here) actually landed a date.
According to Her’s study, there are six ways for users to get more likes, more messages, and more dates while using their app. "Of all the times of the week this is the absolute peak, with not only the highest number of new signups but also the greatest number of likes being dished out.
You also have to allow Her to access your location, but if you have a phone someone already knows exactly where you are all the time anyway, so with that pleasant thought in mind, I hit "Allow." This should’ve been an easy step, but somehow I don’t have eight pictures of myself taken in the last year.
Should I take more pictures, or should I delve into the Body Positive Selfie Archives of my late college years?
Not only did I spare myself the messages from hetero couples looking to spice up their marriages, I also took more chances. Oh, your six things you couldn’t live without weren’t creative enough? I am a terrible coward who will use any excuse I can find to avoid interaction, so the lack of information available on Her worked for me.
When it comes to online dating, I can be a judgmental jerk-face. The other plus was that I couldn’t see how many people I’d liked.
I will never stop feeling like my thumbs are too big to navigate an i Phone. My first message on Her was this stunningly creative gem: "Hey how was your weekend? Once I got over the initial fear of liking photos, I became a photo-liking fiend.